Some say love is a feeling. Some say it’s a choice. I’m not sure how others have experienced it, but for me it has been both. Preceded by choice, love can be a feeling. But I think it starts with a choice.
That choice can be hard. It can be daunting. To give yourself fully to another person, to tell a person how you feel and know that it could go south is one of the riskiest things in the world. Sometimes it works out, sometimes you are doomed from the start, and sometimes it doesn’t start at all. I’ve seen two types of people when it comes to love. People who have loved before and feel that nothing will ever match what they had before. And people who have never been fully available to love and so they bounce around from relationship to relationship.
Neither is how it was meant to be…I’m not sure it will ever be fully what it was meant to be.
I think the day we are able to sustain love towards another person is the day we realize that it will never be perfect. The only person who ever showed perfect love was murdered by those around him. And betrayed by one who was closest to him. If human’s did that to Jesus, how can we expect another person to be perfect. There isn’t a chance.
The Bible describes love. “4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.” – 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8
If you look at the definition of love, it is the formula to dealing with imperfect people. Instead of looking for perfection in people, why don’t we accept them. That does not mean to encourage destruction in others, but it does mean to not leave their side. Our view of love is always being shaped and molded by our surroundings. The gateway to healing a jaded view of love is to actually find a LOVING person who will help you through the healing process. A person who can deal with imperfection.
Something that I am learning is that LOVE INSPIRES MORE LOVE. If you have loved before and been hurt, I believe that you were made to love again. Like a fire before the creation of a forest. To end is to start again.